What’s sexy?


What is sexy? That’s a question Victoria Secret asked while showing some dewy eyed nymphettes with a shortage of clothes and an excess of legs and I think, yeah, I believe they already know the answer to that. Still, it’s kind of an interesting query because everyone seems to have a slightly different opinion.


For instance, I just read Nalini Singh’s Angel’s Blood. The book features a lot of blood. A lot of angels. A lot of vampires. I don’t find any of those things particularly sexy, but um… the whole package…ahhhh yeah. There’s something about paranormal fiction that I always find a little more titillating than straight fiction. And there’s something about well written fiction that I find absolutely engrossing.

A while back I read Cheryl Brooks’Slave. If you haven’t read any of her Cat Star Chronicles series you ahh….Well, I don’t know if you should read it or not. I guess it depends on your taste. It was given to me at a Romantic Times convention. I read it in the hot tub, between meetings, in the elevator. A friend of mine read the same book and seemed a wee bit surprised that I found it so enthralling. And I’m not sure why I did. As my sister said after reading the work of a popular erotica author, “There’s a fine line between sexy and disgusting.” On the other hand, a friend of mine who writes the same level of sexuality said that her favorite review so far is, “This is really nothing more than smut, and I’m going to delete it from my Kindle…someday.”


So how about you? How far is too far? Do you thrive on sweet romance where they shut the bedroom door and let you use your own imagination or is it the trashier the better as far as you’re concerned?






This entry was posted in Uncategorized. Bookmark the permalink.

12 Responses to What’s sexy?

  1. Trish Jensen says:

    Great question. One person’s idea of sexy is another person’s idea of blah. Or smut. I keep getting reviews that call my books sexy, and I keep thinking they’ve read the wrong book. I guess it’s all in the beholder of said book. Sexy, to me, is something subtle. I remember a Jill Barnett book where she described the boot of the hero as he descended from his carriage. That was my intro to the hero, and thought it was the sexiest thing I’d ever read. His boot. And I’ve read explicit books and thought there wasn’t a single sexy thing about any of them. Sex, yes. Sexy, no. So I think sexy is in the eye of the reader. 🙂

  2. loisgreiman says:

    I’m with you, Trish. I’ve been known to throw a few erotica books across the room. But sometimes the description of the simplest things work for me. A glance, a touch, a blush. Sometimes I really like subtle.

  3. You are so right about the fine line between erotic romance and smut/porn. I think, however, that line is moveable depending on the reader’s perspective and life experiences. What I might find sexy and arousing, you might find disgusting or visa versa. One of the reasons historicals can be so sexy without a lot of nudity is that skin to skin contact is so stimulating and they didn’t have it back then. Gloves covered male and female hands so when a naked fingertip touched skin, the response could be so dramatic. Today we are barraged with pictures like the one that opened this segment…women who are already thin and then are airbrushed to achieve a look that is almost impossible in real life. I think sexy would a be woman who is confident in her body and her looks even if she doesn’t look like an underwear model…not that I would mind any of those bodies above! But at my age, ain’t gonna happen.

  4. Linda says:

    I had this conversation with my co-workers yesterday. I always have books at work and offer to let others read them if they want. One person said all you read is “smut”. Um no …. so I was compelled to defend the romance genre. I explained that yes some have sex scenes, a few have explicit sex scenes and others that I have read are more then that but I rarely read things that would make most people uncomfortable. So like the others have stated it is all a matter of preference and what you expect. Some of the sexiest scenes really don’t go into great detail but make me feel more in anticipation for the what comes next. Even on film (television and movies) there is different degrees. Now IF I had the air-brushed bodies of the models I would have no problem with being sexy, but I am a conservative and live vicariously through books.

  5. loisgreiman says:

    I was told that the closer women get to ovulation, the more they are attracted to masculine men. Interesting.

  6. Mary Louise says:

    Hi Lois. WOW… great question. It is a fine line. Just last night I was discussing with a friend that I had no interest in reading the current best selling trilogy and she agreed — way too blatant with no romance. Sexiness is subtle. The little things like describing the look in someone’s eyes, (you know the way Jack looks at Chrissy.– okay, except when he’s ready to strangle her), the slight grin, or body language. Don’t get me wrong, Dakota Cassidy can write a 5 page sex scene that is truly enlightening but I guess it’s the subtle nuance that creates the character for me.

  7. michelehauf says:

    Yes, I think you have to be ‘in a certain mood’ to grab the erotica. And one woman’s erotica is another woman’s straight-out trashy porn. And there are good ones and bad ones, as there are in any genre.
    Sometimes I just want to read about that sweet kiss. Other times, I need to know what the heck is going on between them, with ALL the details.

  8. loisgreiman says:

    🙂 Mary Louise, I think Jack is ALWAYS ready to strangle Chrissy. But who wouldn’t be?

  9. Kylie Brant says:

    I like the sizzling chemistry, the spiraling sensuality in a story…that’s sexy. But detail after detail about their bedroom scenes tends to have me skipping pages. I really don’t want to read about the kinky stuff. And our standard for sexy has vaulted skyward. The erotica stuff has me shaking my head and feeling very very old 🙂

  10. Leanne says:

    I like both. Sometimes, I like the sweetness. Sometimes, I like to be shocked.:) Great subject Lois!;)

  11. loisgreiman says:

    I think my favorite is the flirting. Love writing it, love reading it, love seeing it on the screen.

  12. I’m sorry I missed this post. Where was I? It’s a topic that really interests me. What doesn’t interest me is bondage, domination, inflicting or pretending to inflict pain as a means to achieve some sort of sexual arousal. A piece of writing (or film) that is intended simply to arouse a sexual response in the consumer–stereotypical characters, no real story, no real emotional development, generally superficial except when it comes to the mechanics of sex–well, that’s not sexy. Doesn’t hold my interest. I love a sexy romance, but without a range of human emotion and a well-rounded story, you’re left with anatomical manipulation. Where’s the romance? Where are the sympathetic characters? Where’s the story? I want my time and my money back.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s