During the winter I posted about our son’s wedding, and we’re at it again. Only this time, it’s our only daughter, and I’m sure glad we had that earlier experience in preparation for Emily’s!
Brian’s fiancée Julie was incredibly organized and well-prepared, but we still got to help out with the all of the decorating and afterwards, the process of dismantling what had been a candlelit fairyland the night before. This time, we are doing all the planning. Wow! Times have sure changed since my own wedding, back in the dark ages.
Wedding shows were held in the mid-seventies, but now there are so many of them to choose from–and the goods and services are mind boggling! I figured we’d be set, once the dress and the DJ and florist and venue and cake person and photographer and
videographer and soloist and violists and make-up artist were chosen, but there are meetings upon meetings with these people as the details are slowly, carefully ironed out. Here is Emily, trying on one of the bridesmaid’s dresses, as she won’t let me share one of her wedding gown–yet!
There are floral arrangements and other decorations to plan. Backdrops and invitations to choose, guest lists and menus and myriad other details to figure out.
And I love it.
Love it, but also feel a twinge of sadness and nostalgia as the big day draws near. Wasn’t it just last year when Emily was toddling around the house in her white-blonde braids and diapers? Heading off for her first day of kindergarten? Riding her pony Penelope in the backyard? Now here she is in grad school, planning her wedding, with stars in her eyes over what her future will hold. In just a month, our baby will be gone…and we will truly have an empty nest. It’s funny, how once we had kids, they became the focal part of our lives, and it seemed as if life would revolve around them forever. And yet all too soon they have flown away into careers and families of their own. Makes me wish I’d had three more, just to be able to savor these years longer!
So how about you–what are some of the stages in life that have taken you by surprise? And do you have any wedding advice to share? We could sure use it!