A mantra can be a phrase you use to visualize and encourage certain behaviors or thinking. “I do not need a pool boy to be happy.” See how that would refocus your thinking and remind you that pool boys are accessories and not the foundation of all happiness?
At some point in the last ten years I decided to adopt a number of mantras to help me focus, manage my life, manage my guilt and generally manage any situation in which I found myself letting guilt, pride or resistance drive my decisions.
Some of my favorite mantras are ones stolen from brilliant people who shared their secrets with me.
1) Just because you’ve always done it that way doesn’t mean it‘s not stupid.
2) A failure to plan on your part does not constitute a crisis on my part.
3) Fix the problem not the blame.
4) Your issues are not my issues.
5) I am comfortable with your discomfort.
6) “No” is a complete sentence.
7) Change brings opportunity.
8) Life is pretty damn good, all things considered.
Do you have reminders you repeat to yourself?
Like: “I must buy BLOOD ROCK as soon as I can.”