Recently I heard that approximately 80% of American women hate their bodies. Do you suppose that’s true? 80% is a lot. And do you think it actually has anything to do with how their bodies look? I mean, is it about size and shape or is it, more likely, about pressure and expectations? And if so where did that pressure originate?
I’m told that men tend to be more attracted to fuller figures and yet I’m not sure I can name one woman who doesn’t want to be thinner…even if she’s the approximate width of a paper clip. But maybe that’s not the norm. Maybe there are women out there who wake up every morning, look in the mirror and go…wow…I’m amazing. I mean, that’s possible, right? But does anyone know any of those mythical women?
Do you think the celebrities we admire feel that way? Or is their particular brand of pressure so intense they loath their bodies. Are their standards so strict that they turn to drugs and alcohol and suicide as an escape?
There are actresses, of course, who are so gorgeous that the average person (me) assumes she could not possible be unhappy about her looks. Jessica Alba and Natalie Portman come to mind. On the other hand, there are others like Queen Latifah who seem unshakably confident about their figures even if they don’t fit into the average American’s idea of ‘perfect.’ What does it all mean? Is it our own phobias and insecurities that determine whether we’re happy with ourselves? Or is it the standards others have set? Are those standards changing?
And what about age? I’ve heard that as time passes, we tend to become more forgiving of ourselves. More accepting of our imperfections? Do you think that’s true? It’s a nice thought. But how old do you think one has to be? Because half a century hasn’t really done it for me…