Please welcome Samantha Hunter back to the convertible, and our new digs! Samantha has an awesome new Xmas release right now, I’ll Be Yours For Christmas, and is talking sankalpa today. What’s that? Read on, and find out! And be sure to leave a comment to be entered to win the fabulous basket featured below.
What’s Your Sankalpa?
Thanks to the Riders for having me here today! I can hardly believe Christmas is just a week or so away. And then. . .New Years.
We don’t party or go out, and generally we just enjoy a quiet, peaceful easing into the new year after what are usually hectic holidays. This year I might have a New Year’s Day brunch. I gave up resolutions years ago, since they seemed largely doomed to fail. Then I got into yoga this year, and when reading Yoga Journal, I came upon this article about setting New Year’s sankalpa — what’s that?
No, it’s not some kind of exotic cookie or drink. 🙂
A sankalpa is setting an intention in a positive way – and it’s a deeper way of looking at the promises you make to yourself. You don’t set yourself up for failure with a sankalpa. They don’t address the surface (I need to lose weight) but the thing that lies beneath that need. There is no failure – you just make the effort every day. Some days maybe more than others. It’s not a matter of success of failure with sankalpa, but just an ongoing effort.
Say your resolution is to be more organized. The need to be more organized is often a hint that you feel things are too scattered, busy, or cluttered, and you aren’t are too overwhelmed by it all. So you might think, if I can just get this clutter picked up, it will solve the problem (not). Try instead, “I want to enjoy my day and the people things in it.” To be able to enjoy something means you have to slow down and pay attention. You have to be in the moment. This becomes an intention you try to carry with you (we’re writers, so you can always write it down and carry it with you). Did you enjoy breakfast with your kids, dinner with your spouse, or were you tied to your calendar on your smartphone? Did you enjoy walking your dog, and see how funny she can be, or was your mind elsewhere? Do you enjoy your food, or do you just consume it?
One thing I love about yoga is the idea of practice and acceptance. Whatever I can do today is good. There really is no failure. Don’t go into your sankalpa trying to be perfect every day. We’re not perfect, especially when we are trying something new, so accept that. Rejecting the “no pain no gain,” “results-oriented” “multi-tasking” philosophy that’s been ground into us has been an eye-opener. I think we’re so conditioned to try to change ourselves through negative means, we forget how much more powerful positive ones can be.
I’m still mulling exactly what my sankalpa will be for 2011. I’m still working it out. The article recommends a little soul-searching on this issue, and I am doing that, but general advice I would add would be to avoid anything that comes with “should” pressure, or the “or else” kind of feeling. Make sure the same kind of negativity that often lurks in resolutions isn’t infecting your sankalpa. I think it should feel like giving yourself a gift, or a compliment, which is often hard to do – so work at it.
So, what are resolutions you have been thinking about, and how might you change it to a sankalpa? Share, and you might win this Christmas basket that Joanne Rock and I have put together for a lucky winner at the end of the day.
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