Parenting…it’s something I think about a lot lately. Partly because my children are now having children of their own. But partly because of the books I’m writing. In the past I’ve done a lot of romance…kind of sexy stuff with a few murders thrown in to keep the readers on their toes.
But I’m currently doing a more ummmm soulful?? books. They’re all about family and relationships and babies and coming home. It’s a nice place for me to be right now, but I find that I get kind of introspect. Wondering what I did wrong. What I’ve done right. Wondering if I have any advice at all to give my own kids.
It’s funny, or maybe a little sad, what you can feel guilty about. Twenty years or so ago my husband and I took a trip to the UK where I did research for my Scottish romance novels. Our kids were still little and our youngest son had a cold. I still feel badly about leaving them. On the other hand, it’s one of the times I did some of my most creative parenting. Before I left I bought a tiny gift for each of them for every day I was gone. Then I gave them clues about where they would find them. The clues were written by a fictional character I called Fergus. It was very memorable for me and I hope, for them. I think of that as one of the smarter things I did during their formative years.
On the flipside, I remember laughing when my daughter told me she wanted to be a chef. I don’t know what I was thinking. Maybe it was the fact that she had never cooked so much as a three minute egg in her young life. But whatever the case, I’m pretty sure I shouldn’t have laughed because she’s called me ‘the dream crusher’ ever since and that was decades ago. She chuckles when she says it. Nevertheless, I was obviously an insensitive clod. It makes me wonder what other awful things I did that I’ve since forgotten about.
What about you? What’s the best thing you’ve done for children, yours or someone else’s? Or would you like to share the mistakes you’ve made along the way?
Although Home Fires, the second book in my Hope Springs series, doesn’t come out until June, I have a number of advance reading copies. Leave a comment and I’ll choose a winner to receive one of those hot-off-the-presses copies.